I have found that when I have people at home that need me - a significant other and kids - work is an afterthought. Maybe what you really need is a girlfriend.
I didn't say it was easy. Though I find it's more common for people to miss opportunities for love due to unreasonable expectations of others. There are overweight girls and single mothers out there that need love, if your pathetic, depressed and unemployed self doesn't think you are too good for them.